If you have read the blogs up until today, and struggled with the concept that The Visitor is not just a Love story, but rather a story of Love, then today's blog should help you in gaining a deeper understanding.
In this blog, we tie together the concepts of the Visitor's extreme dualistic viewpoint, his views of things either being sacred or mundane, and his frustration with the inadequacy of language. You will also get insights into the reason why Truth and Love are central themes, occurring over and over again. It is the essence of The Visitor.
Within the first three pages we get a glimpse of the Visitor's perspective on Love. As discussed in previous blogs, the word Love throughout The Visitor is always capitalized. Love is not used as an adjective, or a verb, but rather as a proper (or even personal) noun denoting something more than an emotional feeling. As explained earlier, to the Visitor - Love is a sacred word, not to be used lightly, and as such should only be spoken from the soul.
Even for people who might be able to relate to the idea of how easily and often the word Love has been misused, the Visitor is deeply concerned with the watering down the true meaning of a sacred notion (in this case the notion of Love) that it becomes meaningless.
One of the more popular, "innocent" uses of the word Love is found within the frequent and flippant quip of "Unconditional Love". People use it so often, to assert a "strong" Love, that they don't stop to realize that in doing so, they give credence to a notion that Love can be conditional. I myself literally cringe whenever I hear someone use the phrase, "Unconditional Love". To acknowledge the existence of one extreme, is to acknowledge the existence of the other. Can you really have anything such as "conditional Love"? If the answer is no, if it is conditional than its not truly Love; then it is also true that it is impossible to have it's antithesis - "unconditional Love". This is an intrinsic example of the dualistic world view of the Visitor. There are no shades of grey. You cannot have "unconditional Love" without promoting through your assertion that there also exists a "conditional Love". The fact is, the dualistic polar opposite of Love is hate...and any limits, conditions or anything else you may try to place on Love takes you away from Love.
This concept is really no different than when someone pleads they are telling "the honest truth". Is there any other type of truth? Is there a dishonest truth? When did it become necessary to defend the truth? As the Visitor makes it clear, defending the truth dilutes it.
Notions such as "unconditional Love or honest Truth" pollute the purity of the concepts and notions behind Love and Truth. You can't dilute either without it becoming something else. A little white lie is a lie - not the truth. And a diluted Love may be affection, or strong liking, or kinship, but it is not Love. Love is pure, as is truth. There are no shades of Truth or Love. They are absolutes.
Combine both of these bastardizations of Love and Truth and you end up with another popular quip that waters down and diminishes both concepts, the cute phrase of "True Love". Really? Is there any other kind? Is there a false Love? If there is then by it's very definition, it wouldn't be Love, no more than a false Truth would be Truth.
If you are able to say that you have unconditional Love for someone, than you are recognizing by that assertion the existence of Love at times being "conditional" - else why make the distinction? And if you think you are capable of recognizing, endorsing or enacting a Love that is not unconditional, then simply put, I have to question if you really know what Love is.
Harsh? - Perhaps...
I understand that people don't really think about what they say, or really understand the deeper meaning of what they say, or even the implications or what they say. They hear something, it sounds good, they repeat it. Innocent enough.
But when you give life or recognition to the idea that there is such a think as "conditional Love" by stressing at anytime for anyone that you have an "unconditional Love" then you are actually part of the problem of supporting the watering down of what is a sacred word. Love.
This is the point of the Visitor when he is upset by people misusing the word Love to describe mundane things like chocolate or wine. When you misuse the word, you make the word meaningless.
Besides the notion of Love being sacred, the Visitor recognizes how things may try to "pass for Love which are not, and tells the crowd to be on guard against such things. In the poetic parable on Love (pg 33) we get a sampling of this notion. Although the words you hear may be tempting, and may be what you want to hear - do not be fooled.
Do not settle for less than Love.
Such leaves you incomplete.
Do not be tempted by false Love,
Although it may seem sweet.
Stronger yet is the poetic parable on Truth and Honesty, where the Visitor expands on this idea. In this parable, the Visitor describes how the word Love should stir from your soul (not from your mind), and never be used for describing mundane or carnal notions. Even more to the point, the Visitor tells those present to take care of careless use of such sacred words, as it is the way of those who would trick you to diminish truths. As such, using terms like "unconditional Love, honest Truth, and even True Love" simply confuse people.
Never say “Love” as a word with no weight
Sacred words should stir from your soul
Nor should you ever speak dark words of hate
As dark words of hate take their toll.
When you claim “Love” in describing possessions
You diminish the meaning of your word
So when you say, “I Love” it may lead to questions
And your true passion may never be heard.
Such is the way of the tricksters
To diminish the truths you would speak
To confuse all your brothers and sisters
And to hide the truth you would seek.
Perhaps a simple notion. Perhaps one you have never really even put you mind too; and your misuse of such words is no more than innocent ignorance. But when you understand Love, and Truth, you will realize that there is no such thing as half measures. You can't Love 99% any more than you can claim Truth to be less than 100%.
Love absolute and complete is not a novel concept. The idea that Love cannot be conditional is easily understood by Luke 6:27 where we are told to "Love our enemies", no strings attached, no conditions;
“But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them. Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you. “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them."
If you can relate to this concept, then you are well on your way to understanding The Visitor as not just a Love story, but a story of Love. In closing, and to drive the essence of The Visitor home, I leave you with 1 John 4:8 to emphasize why the word Love is viewed by the Visitor as a sacred notion.
Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.
Until next time,
Journey in Love
Michael Paul